Motherhood is funny.
Not lol and ha-ha funny… but “if I don’t laugh, I may cry while hiding in the bathroom or right in the presence of everyone” funny.
Between making 147 decisions before breakfast, forgetting why I walked into a room, managing several chronic and autoimmune conditions I am ‘blessed wish, reheating the same chai three times (oh who am I kidding – drinking the cold chai coz who has the energy to heat it again!) , and wondering if I’m raising a future genius or a future professional negotiator — life gets real.
But today, I’m choosing to be kinder to myself.
Not because everything is perfect.
But because I’m still here, still trying, and still loving with a heart that’s forever tired but never empty.
So here are the 5 things I am good at —
even though I mess up, give up at times, have meltdowns and occasionally lose my mind.
1. Showing up… even when I want to disappear
Some days I wake up feeling like I’ve run a marathon in my sleep. Those who know me well, know that I am super sleep deprived since over a decade. Some days I wake up feeling I can’t do this anymore. And yet, I show up coz the lunch box (even if it’s not a perfect Instagram-friendly meal) must be ready and packed before the school bus arrives.
I may show up with puffy eyes, aching bones, bloated tummy, cranky looks and a brain that takes five minutes to process “Mummaaa, remember you promised…?” —
but I show up.
And honestly?
That counts.
It really does.
2. Creating small joys… in between big chaos
I’m good at making memories (and forgetting them a lot these days) even when life looks like a messy room that I’ll clean “6 minutes later” (which never comes).
A funny voice during storytime.
A random hug while passing by.
Making silly faces and cracking poor jokes.
Little things… that somehow matter the most.
Even when the day is a disaster, I still manage to give my child something to smile about, even when it is at the end of the day. And sometimes, that feels like magic.
3. Multitasking like a slightly confused octopus
Am I good at multitasking?
Yes. Maybe.
Do I enjoy it?
Absolutely not.
I answer school-related messages while stirring curry.
I help with test preparations while mentally writing tomorrow’s to-do list.
I remember everyone’s needs, more or less… except my own meds and water intake.
I fail, I forget, I mix up things, I complain— but I somehow get things done.
Maybe not gracefully, but done is done. 😄
4. Learning, unlearning, and Googling my way through motherhood
I’m good at figuring things out… eventually.
I don’t always get it right the first time.
Sometimes not even the fifth time.
I’ve made mistakes, repeated mistakes, and invented new ones.
But I learn.
I adapt.
I grow.
And my child is growing with me — which means I must be doing something right, even if it doesn’t feel like it every day.
5. Loving fiercely, even when I’m exhausted, irritated, or overwhelmed
My love shows up even when my patience doesn’t.
Even when I’m tired.
Even when I’m frustrated.
Even when I say “I can’t do this anymore”… and then somehow continue doing it anyway.
My love isn’t perfect.
It’s not Instagram-aesthetic.
It’s not “calm mom” love.
It’s real, raw, “I’m doing my best but please don’t test me right now” love —
and it’s the strongest thing about me.
To every mom reading this:
You don’t need to be perfect to be good.
If you’re trying… even imperfectly… you’re already doing more than enough.
MOM AND IDEAS 