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What I did today when my daughter was at school!

They say a woman should not interfere in another female’s kitchen. Well, I did that and the other female appreciated it 😊 Read on to know more!

I love toys, I guess more than my four-year-old kid 🤣 So I had my best friend come over yesterday. We met after 6 years as she stays in Australia and I in India. I met her younger 5-year-old daughter for the first time and she met my kid for the first time too.

We five gals had a great nail party and Draw the stem of the Apple game after having some dosas and followed by “Meeting Friends” Cake cutting time 😊 The girls decided to play with the kitchen set and made us some pretend snacks and tea. Oh what cute moments 😘😘

They tidied up the toys but we were in a rush to go out and the box wasn’t closing! So today, when my daughter went to her school, I decided to organize her kitchen things in the box. It was surprisingly therapeutic! Not a big deal but some things were sorted while sitting on a couch and it felt so good. Well, that my real kitchen is a real mess currently but one thing at a time 😊 Here’s a little video of the kitchen toys organization (simple stuff) that I put up on YouTube, do have a look.

Organising Pretend Play Toys – Kitchen Sets

PS We don’t have so many kitchen toys because of the gender of my daughter. She loves Lego, stem activities, puzzles, cars, equally. But we happened to receive many kitchen toys as gifts for her, and she loves them all!

I hope you have subscribed to my YouTube channel @momandideas as I am posting some interesting videos you might like.

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Some good moments on a sick and stressful day

So my father’s BP suddenly increased to 180+ in the middle of the night. He had a bad stomach ache too. We stay 30 minutes away and I missed my mom’s missed calls. I am dealing with severe headache since 10 days and had been able to sleep after taking a painkiller only after 2 am. Can’t explain how terrible I felt when I awoke really very late on the morning to see her missed calls.

Anyway, we spoke to some doctors on the phone. Mishika’s friend’s mother, who is also a good friend of mine now, is an excellent doctor. She was so sweet of guiding us through over the phone and prescribing a medicine for blood pressure to help my dad until we reached him. She also made me feel less anxious.

We finally got a doctor’s appointment in the evening. His BP is still high but the doctor suggested that he might be having a preexisting but undiagnosed blood pressure issue. Thankfully, my mom checked his BP when he was sick and it helped detect it. Anyway, so the current thing is to get his stomach ache sorted with the prescribed medication while his BP meds have also been started.

Meanwhile, I am still struggling with really bad headache and mild fever, so I could not take him to the doctor and felt terrible again. My husband went with him while I stayed back with my mom and 4-year-old. Since I couldn’t move much, we decided to have a nailpaint session. I always think that a haircut or self care or small indulgences can make one feel little better on the toughest days. During my severe depression phases, I always get a haircut and somehow it helps me feel better. So we had a quick nailpaint application – all three of us – my mom, I and my daughter! She felt so good and happy. I kinda lifted our spirits a bit. I even uploaded our little 3-generations video on YouTube!

3 Generations trying to feel better on a tough day!

I think small things like this can always lift someone’s mood on a gloomy day. What do you do to feel a little better and make people around you feel better on stressful days? Let me know in comments.

Watch “Clouds Will Float – Nursery Rhyme With Lyrics | Kids Songs Sing Along” on YouTube

Announcing the LAUNCH of our NURSERY RHYMES & CHILDREN’S STORIES SERIES on our YouTube channel Mom and Ideas (@momandideas)

Now enjoy watching nursery rhymes, kids songs, stories and activity ideas by Momandideas on YouTube. CLOUDS WILL FLOAT is an original nursery rhyme created by mom and daughter duo of Mom and Ideas. The nursery rhyme is the outcome of our combined imagination as we saw some clouds floating in the sky and wondered how it would have been if we were on a boat!

WHY ARE NURSERY RHYMES IMPORTANT? Nursery rhymes for kids is a likeable fun learning way to develop interest in languages – words, rhythms and sentence construction. It facilitates imagination as those tiny minds have their own versions of how the characters in a rhyme look and act. At the same time, kids songs or rhymes are beautiful learning opportunities! Mishika and I often end up creating our rhymes and stories together and I thought of sharing it on this platform. If you like our creations, PLEASE LIKE, SHARE AND SUBSCRIBE TO OUR CHANNEL  @MOM AND IDEAS 

Copyright: ©Momandideas ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Music Credit: Music: Christmas Tree

DIY Sheep Costume for Halloween | Fancy Dress Lamb Costume| World Animal Day

Learn how to make a sheep costume (or lamb costume) at home. Perfect for fancy dress competitions, costume parties, Halloween and Domestic Animals Day celebrations at school. This is a low budget costume and very comfortable for kids.

HOW TO MAKE SHEEP COSTUME:
DIY FOR HALLOWEEN AND FANCY DRESS

I have uploaded the video on How to make Sheep Costume on YouTube and I am also embedding ot here.

How to make Sheep Costume:
DIY video on YouTube

Remember to save this video for future reference. Like, Share and Subscribe if you find this video useful 😊

Please let me know in comments how did you like this homemade costume. Would you like to see more such DIY videos?

DIY Cute and Easy Cupcake Costume for Halloween and Fancy Dress

This cute DIY cupcake / muffin costume is very easy to make and requires easily available items from around your house or the local store. It is super low budget and it involves very little time to make this Fancy Dress / Halloween costume. Perfect for toddlers and grown ups for fancy dress competitions, theme parties and of course, Halloween!

Mishika dressed up as a Cute Cupcake

So, I made this cupcake costume for Mishika for a Fancy Dress event for kids in our housing complex. She is almost 4 years old and this was her first every costume wearing event. I wanted her to enjoy participating instead of focussing on winning. So I didn’t tell her that there will be prizes involved and all. Getting kids involved in creating something that they will wear, eat or use is always a good idea. She wore the cupcake costume without any hesitation and didn’t ask us to remove it until the fancy dress competition was over and prizes were distributed!

Creating this cute Muffin required very basic items: Cardboard, Wrapping Paper, Glue, Scissors, an old Tutu / Dress with Frills that the kid has outgrown, Lanyard/String/Ribbon to hang the cupcake base bit.

I have uploaded a DIY video on YouTube on how to make this comfortable cupcake costume for Fancy Dress, Halloween, etc. Do check it out! Feel free to share with friends who might find this useful 😊 Save it for future reference as well. It is so super easy to make!

DIY CUPCAKE COSTUME VIDEO

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Lunch box ideas for preschoolers / snack break ideas for school kids

DAY 1 Snack Box Idea (check both images to see what I packed and what came back) 😇

June 22nd was Mishika’s first day of school! They have one snack break and no need to mention that I was worried if she would eat anything at all. But she surprised me when she came home with an empty tiffin box and said she loved everything! So I am very happy for the first day. Thankfully, she finishes her tiffin every single day and it’s been over a month now 🙂

Scroll till the end for a video on 12 days of tiffin ideas.

I will keep sharing her daily lunch box / snack box ideas for every parent like me who is confused about what to pack everyday!

Let me know if you would like to see more tiffin ideas for school kids and I will continue this series. I will also share what she ate and what came back so we know what works and when and how!

Wish this nervous and excited first-time-school-going-kid-mom luck 😊

In the box:

1. Homemade pancakes with jaggery
2. Cashew nuts
3. Roasted salt and pepper phool makhane / fox nuts
4. Kishmish / raisins

So I am very happy for the first day. Thankfully, she finishes her tiffin every single day and it’s been over a month now 🙂

I will keep sharing her daily lunch box / snack box ideas for every parent like me who is confused about what to pack everyday!

Let me know if you would like to see more tiffin ideas for school kids and I will continue this series. I will also share what she ate and what came back so we know what works and when and how!

Wish this nervous and excited first-time-school-going-kid-mom luck 😊

In the box:

1. Homemade pancakes with jaggery
2. Cashew nuts
3. Roasted salt and pepper phool makhane / fox nuts
4. Kishmish / raisins

12 days of tiffin ideas

Travelling with a Toddler: Diaper changing tips in crowded outdoors

Do you struggle to CHANGE DIAPERS when you are in CROWDED OUTDOORS without your car and no visible restroom in vicinity? Well, let me tell you what helped us in a crowded Mumbai area.

So as we know, there are not many clean public restrooms here in Mumbai where a woman can comfortably pee, let alone change her kid’s diapers!

We went to Mumbai’s Byculla Zoo (Veermata Jijabai Bhosale Udyan And Zoo) yesterday and decided to take public transport🚇🚍 instead of our car. All was fine until the super humidity in afternoon (it finally rained last evening) and sweating resulted in excessive water intake. Well, we had to change her sweat soaked clothes and diaper (before it was too late).

For those who are being judgemental and wondering why my 3.5 years old daughter is out in diapers, please visit the washrooms / public toilets in Mumbai and tell me how can you make your child sit there.

The wet and stinky floors of the zoo washrooms were definitely not an option. There was no time to head to a mall (the obvious choice for a little cleaner restroom). And that’s when this mom’s brain came to action. We found a small but clean restaurant nearby that had a little family area kinda partition. Don’t judge me, a mom needs to do what she needs to do! Since it was non-peak hour, it didn’t have customers. We ordered some tea and all and requested the manager if we could change her clothes and diaper in the area behind the partition. He obliged and I felt we met an angel! Thankfully, my kid is a little older now so the change could be managed with her standing. We had a disposal bag handy, we remember to always leave with that though I now realize I should always carry a dupatta or large scarf so that I can use it to create a covered area when we go in little crowded outdoors. I still have no idea what I would have done if she had done the bigger business!

So if you are stuck in a crowded area and must change the baby’s diaper in privacy, try this:
1. Carry all the necessary changing things including a few disposal bags and wipes.
2. Carry a large dupatta / sheet so that if need be you can just make a covered area to change in privacy.
3. Restaurant is definitely not a good choice for diaper change but whatever works in emergency.
4. If you can wait, just take a cab and head to the nearest mall.
5. Hope / pray that the authorities will soon create child-friendly public restrooms 🚻 If you are someone who can bring about this change or are a celebrity, please help make our city a comfortable place for kids.
Moms and dads in this situation, don’t panic, you’ll always find a solution!

Please share to help other parents in similar situation.

Earth Citizens

TITLE: I AM FROM EARTH.

A dangerous virus arrived on earth.
Many many years after human evolution.
Just a virus, without any education, ideology or a long process of evolution.
Didn’t discriminate on the basis of anything.
It treated everyone equally, regardless of:
Country
Religion
Gender
Age
Colour
Caste
Financial status
Education
Language
And kinda ruled our lives for two years.

Meanwhile, all humans came together.
Regardless of:
Country
Religion
Gender
Age
Colour
Caste
Financial status
Education
Language
They made it weaker together.
Finally, it is weaker, maybe.

And now humans are focussing again on what makes them weaker as a species by fighting in the name of:
Country
Religion
Gender
Age
Colour
Caste
Financial status
Education
Language

Weird creatures we are. Very weird. Maybe we affected / infected the virus so much that it started having different prominent variants in different places.

Why do we need a calamity to stand together. Why do we need to fight? Let people be. Let us be EARTH CITIZENS while respecting everyone’s individual beliefs, culture and language preferences.

#justahumanbeing #iamfromearth

S for Shadow of a Mom

Slightly faint, but clearly a woman’s shadow was visible outside the window as Rohit and Beth rushed after hearing the wailing sound from Keith’s room.

Surprisingly, Keith was fast asleep and the wailing stopped.

Save my child please. Beth, only you can save him. The Command is coming for him. I shouldn’t have trusted it. It wants to leave my body and inhabit Keith’s nervous system, where it will influence his behaviour and make him do terrible things. Read all about parasites, you might figure out something. I must leave now,” Quincy had somehow managed to see her son and speak to Beth before disappearing yet again. 

Studies have proved that many parasites use more than one host organism and since they cannot survive without a host, they rely on their hosts themselves to facilitate transmission – Rohit discovered this fact after five minutes of using a search engine. 

Somehow, they had to figure out how The Command could be stopped from reaching Keith.

Suddenly, Beth remembered that The Voice had told them that the evil power fed on anxiety, fear and sorrow.

So if Keith stays happy all the time, maybe The Command couldn’t touch him. Let’s ensure that he doesn’t get upset about anything and stays relaxed at all times. Let’s even celebrate his birthday in advance, let him not even sense that there is a problem,” Beth had found a temporary solution.

Superb idea, let’s all try that. But have you ever come across a kid who is happy about everything all the time? It’s obvious for a child to get disappointed about something that might appear unimportant to us,” A Minute appeared in all her glory with a glowing neon arrow and it was even visible to Rohit.

Soon, The One Minuters arrived even though they were planning to come a couple of days later.

Seems like we need to rush to the University ground. Twitter is abuzz with tweets about weird vibrations in the local university campus. This time, let’s reach before the damage is done,” Dev was all charged up to stop The Command.

Stay here Beth, what if The Command comes for Keith while you are away?” Rohit was worried as he understood the gravity of the situation.

Sixty seconds, we will be back in just sixty seconds. I and The Voice will know if it comes here and we’ll be here in no time,” A Minute sounded confident.

Sadly enough, she had no idea that The Command could now be present at two places at the same time since it had separated Quincy’s shadow from her body and was using both as hosts simultaneously.

The story continues tomorrow in the next post. Did you notice that I managed to start each sentence of this chapter of the story with the letter S (I have managed to do the same from the B letter post)! This is my 18th post for this year’s A to Z Challenge (#atozchallenge). Head to my previous posts to read the entire story.
Read all my posts for the challenge in the A to Z links below:
A ➡ B ➡ C ➡ D ➡ E ➡ F ➡ G ➡ H ➡ I ➡ J ➡ K ➡ L ➡ M ➡ N ➡ O ➡ P ➡ Q ➡ R ➡ S ➡ T ➡ U ➡ V ➡ W ➡ X ➡ Y ➡ Z

P for Pick your health before anything else

People tend to get so busy with the day-to-day stress in their lives that they ignore their health. 

Physical as well as mental health often take the backseat, especially the latter one.

Picking everything over one’s own health might temporarily work for the general population, but superheroes cannot afford to ignore it.

Part of your training includes ensuring that you have all enough strength and energy to fight a super enemy and recover quickly after the fights. So, while we train you every night, you must promise to include COASTED in your daily diet from now on,” A Minute explained the importance of the superfoods to the One Minuters.

C – Carrots: For bone health, vision, better immune system, blood pressure management and energy

O – Oats: For better heart health and a healthy gut; especially for Tim who would consume almost everything

A – Almonds: For bone health and brain, and relieving anxiety

S – Spinach: For bone health, vision, energy and anti-inflammatory properties

T – Turmeric: For better memory, pain relief and heart health    

E – Eggs: For strong muscles, vision, heart health, better memory and energy

D – Dates: For energy and anti-infective, anti-inflammatory and anti-bleeding properties; necessary for the superheroes after fighting the evil superpowers.

Planning everything perfectly was A Minute’s forte and, for relieving stress, she suggested some relaxation techniques, getting proper sleep and Saturday fun sessions; she would have been a successful stand-up comedienne if she was a person.

Pay us for our efforts in training you by strictly following the relaxation techniques and a COASTED inclusive diet. Those who skip these will bear the brunt of whatever is approaching you. This is not a movie or a comic book, this is real,” The Voice sounded very serious.

Preparing for The Command’s inevitable approach was getting more real as Dev realised one thing, “True, all those superhero movies just show action, no one shows any superhero eating or resting, ever!”

Perhaps, you would want your kid Keith to eat these superfoods as well Beth. These are all, in any case, good for kids. After all, The Command is waiting to try and use him as a host. Keith must be strong both physically and mentally,” A Minute added.

The story continues tomorrow in the next post. Did you notice that I managed to start each sentence of this chapter of the story with the letter P (I have managed to do the same from the B letter post)! This is my 16th post for this year’s A to Z Challenge (#atozchallenge). Head to my previous posts to read the entire story.
Read all my posts for the challenge in the A to Z links below:
A ➡ B ➡ C ➡ D ➡ E ➡ F ➡ G ➡ H ➡ I ➡ J ➡ K ➡ L ➡ M ➡ N ➡ O ➡ P ➡ Q ➡ R ➡ S ➡ T ➡ U ➡ V ➡ W ➡ X ➡ Y ➡ Z

M for Memories make the mom strong

Milliseconds after telling Beth that The Command was waiting to have Keith under its control, The Voice suddenly disappeared or was rather inaudible.

Morning was just a few hours away, so Tim, Holly and Dev decided to leave while Daphne and Evelyn stayed back at Beth’s place to comfort her.

Much to Daphne’s surprise, Beth did not wish to talk and headed to her room after ensuring that they were comfortable in the guest bedroom.

Memories are mysterious things –  one never manages to forget the bad times that keep haunting forever, but when a life is at risk, the good memories gently arrive making one feel that life isn’t that bad.

Much of Beth’s night was spent reminiscing about the happy moments with Grace, Keith and Rohit.

Meeting Rohit, her ex-husband, five years ago was one of her fondest memories as they couldn’t take eyes off each other at a common friend’s wedding.

My God Cassie, he is the most amazing single dad! You should have seen how he takes care of his one-year-old baby Keith. You will see, I will marry him someday,” Beth had told her best friend the day she met Rohit; they married only after a few months.

Maternal instincts had kicked in the moment Beth had held Keith in her arms for the first time and they had bonded instantly.

Mom, I love you,” Keith used to tell her daily until Grace was born.

Mom, I love my baby sister the most. I love you and dad also… a little bit,” he was the most loving and caring brother to Grace. 

Maybe if she and Rohit had not separated she could have spent more time with Keith, Beth thought as she regretted managing to meet him only on weekends.

Married or not, we will always try to spend weekends with both the kids and be the best parents ever,” it was Rohit’s idea who still was her 2 a.m. friend.

Misfortune always seemed to find Beth, but this time it was about the safety of her kids and she decided to do everything possible and even impossible to keep them safe.

Might as well put our superpowers to good use, let’s give our hundred percent when The Voice trains us. I don’t know what exactly my superpower is but I will definitely not let that Command hurt my kid or anyone else’s. Daphne, don’t worry about Evelyn, I will take care of her,” Beth surprisingly sounded positive during the breakfast, much to Daphne and Evelyn’s relief.

Meet me at the Andheri stadium at 11.59 pm tonight, you will have no trouble entering,” both Beth and Evelyn heard The Voice speak into their ears.

Man, what is with The Voice and number 59? He always makes me count till 59!” Evelyn said.

Me too,” Beth replied and continued to narrate the turbulent plane incident; it was about time the superheroes knew more about each other.

The story continues tomorrow in the next post. Did you notice that I managed to start each sentence of this chapter of the story with the letter M (I have managed to do the same from B to L posts)! This is my 13th post for this year’s A to Z Challenge (#atozchallenge). Head to my previous posts to read the entire story.
Read all my posts for the challenge in the A to Z links below:
A ➡ B ➡ C ➡ D ➡ E ➡ F ➡ G ➡ H ➡ I ➡ JKLM ➡ N ➡ O ➡ P ➡ Q ➡ R ➡ S ➡ T ➡ U ➡ V ➡ W ➡ X ➡ Y ➡ Z

E for End it now!

Eager to get answers, Beth agreed to give her hair sample for DNA analysis to a complete stranger.

Email IDs were exchanged, Daphne promised to stay in touch and soon the final boarding announcement was made.

Even though Beth loved window seats, she had a lot to think about and for the first time ever, instead of gazing at the clouds, she closed her eyes and thought about her conversation with Daphne.

Evelyn, Daphne’s eighteen-year-old daughter, had experienced the same pain in the arm for the first time almost two years ago, incidentally at the same restaurant where Beth had experienced the sting.

Easy girl,” Chef Jean had said to her, “there’s no scorpion here, it’s all in your mind!”

Embarrassed about her screaming as the entire restaurant noticed and her friends mocked her, she told about the sting to her mom.

Either she is being dramatic or she just wants my attention, Daphne had thought earlier; however, her world shook later as she witnessed a few weird incidents.

Everything what Daphne told Beth felt like a fantasy movie script to her, she sensed exaggeration but somewhere deep inside she believed her.

Exactly half an hour after taking off, Beth’s plane ran into severe turbulance – a significant rattling noise was heard in the fuselage and the passengers were told to fasten their seat belts.

Even after ten minutes, the plane was shaking terribly and people started panicking and praying while the kids started crying.

End it Beth, you can end it now!” a voice commanded her like a loud sound from headphones, but she wasn’t wearing any.

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The story continues tomorrow in the next post. Did you notice that I managed to start each sentence of the story with E, the letter of the day (I have managed to do the same from B to D posts)! This is my fifth post for this year’s A to Z Challenge (#atozchallenge). Head to my previous posts that start with the letters A & B (B is when this story begins), C and D (list below).

I’ll be posting daily except Sundays all through the month. Stay tuned. Read all my posts for the challenge in the A to Z links below:

A ➡ B ➡ C ➡ D ➡ E ➡ F ➡ G ➡ H ➡ I ➡ J ➡ K ➡ L ➡ M ➡ N ➡ O ➡ P ➡ Q ➡ R ➡ S ➡ T ➡ U ➡ V ➡ W ➡ X ➡ Y ➡ Z

Mom of a special needs child talks about acceptance and staying strong: Aparna Nayak Interview – Part 2

This post is second in the series of our conversation with Aparna Nayak, mom to a teenage daughter with special needs . If you missed the first part, please read it here.

Continuing with our questions in this second part of the interview:

How do you help yourself stay strong?

Well, that’s a difficult one to answer. I am a human too. Sometimes like all others I too have breakdowns. I too have my mood swings and panic attacks but otherwise, I take inspiration from many moms and people whom I know and are having much more difficult time than me, and I say ‘If they can so can I’. But yes, it is ok to break down sometimes and let go. It is ok to ask for help. It is ok to take a break once in a while. It is ok to allow someone else to take care of your child for some time. You can’t be a one-man army.

Photo by Vlada Karpovich on Pexels.com

Most of the time I am told, you are very strong, we look up to you or God gives special needs children to strong moms or people who are gifted and strong, which sometimes makes me angry. We are not born strong or we are not that gifted or blessed. It’s our child and each and every mother does go beyond the limit for her offspring. No mother in the universe would want to see her child suffer. I am sure many mothers hide their tears when they see their little one suffering as we have to put up with our ‘brave face’. Stop putting us on a pedestal. We are also humans who have emotions just like others; it’s just that we hide our tears and fears from people. Only our pillows or bathrooms or journals know what we go through day in and day out. Don’t judge us with our smiles and happy face.

After Prerna was born, I gave up most of my hobbies, painting and reading. But a few years back, I started my blogs, which connected me to various authors and I started reviewing. Last year, during lockdown I took up painting after nearly two decades and trust me it is therapeutic. I had never ever gone out without my parents/husband and kid but in first week of September I took my life’s first 2-day solo trip and trust me it rejuvenated me. I was asked “What’s the need?” But I told “I just need to be with me”. Trust me take up a hobby, listen to music, join a dance class or gym, do what you want to just de-stress and unwind. It goes a long way to maintain one’s sanity.

What would you like to tell parents in the same boat?

First of all, ACCEPTANCE (as I mentioned in previous question); trust me it goes a long way. Once you accept your child’s condition it clears your mind and allows you to receive and process information easily. Secondly, it is ok to ask for help, to coordinate and delegate things. Don’t take every blame and responsibility on yourself. Take a vacation once in a while for yourself, take a breather, it is necessary for you to function properly and take care of your child, and DON’T, I mean DON’T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT. If you don’t function properly, then how you are going to take care of your child and house. So take a few minutes out only for yourself, to gather your thoughts, and calm yourself and then straighten your back and take on the day ahead. Meet moms of other kids, form a bond, share with them your problems, your success because you never know what might help you and them too.

How do you deal with unsolicited advice by those around you?

Ha, haha…. What can I say? Sometimes, if I am in a good mood, I just nod my head while switching off my brains and ears and giving them an impression that I am grateful for their advice. But on days when I am really in a bad mood, I just walk away from that person. That is very rare though as most of the time I opt for the former reaction even if I am in a bad mood. My advice, just smile. Because they are ignorant and believe me they won’t last even for one hour in our shoes.

Your voice: Tell us whatever you feel like sharing

Well, there is a lot but all I want to say is don’t trust anything and anyone blindly. THERE IS NOTHING CALLED MIRACLE CURE FOR OUR KIDS. Do your research and trust your gut. Once a very senior doctor told me, “Though we are doctors and we are looked upon for advice but I feel you moms are the best to decide what’s good for your child. All we can do is guide you but the final decision has to be yours as you spend most of the day with your child and you know what’s best for them.”

So I would say trust your gut instinct. Don’t fall prey to miraculous recovery and costly treatments which promise your child will be completely fine. Do what you feel is best but don’t ignore yourself. If your health is affected, remember no one might take care of you and your child. And most importantly – don’t blame yourself for what has happened and also if you are unable to achieve most of it. Most doctors (sadly) stress giving importance to the child and their schedule and therapies and all but they don’t tell us we have to take care of ourselves too. I made the mistake of making Prerna the topmost priority while neglecting myself due to which my health has got affected and now I am suffering from back issues and spondylitis and other ailments related to it like migraine and whatnot. Sometimes the pain is so bad that changing or feeding Prerna her meals itself seems to be a herculean task. On some days even getting up from bed seems to be a chore but then our children are hungry and so are we. So my advice, pay attention to your health, to your posture, ask your therapist about the right way to hold, lift your child. Make sure you don’t strain your back and shoulder. Along with your child concentrate on strengthening your body too.

Also, always take the second opinion.  If need be, go for a third opinion as well, especially when it is regarding a major surgery or anything regarding your child’s benefit. And go ahead only if you feel it is right and not because the doctor has said it. They are also humans and not God. Even Gods have committed mistakes so think, don’t take hasty decisions and most importantly there is no miracle cure for our kids.     

Tell us something about Aparna before marriage and childbirth?

Sigh! Aparna before marriage was an innocent, gullible young girl with a dream of a perfect marriage, perfect husband, perfect kids, and nothing else. After Prerna was born life took a 180-degree turn. I learned to do multitasking, managing the house, Prerna’s schedule, and many other things single-handedly. I used to be dependent on my father for everything before marriage and on my husband after marriage but Prerna’s birth taught me to be self-reliant and be strong. After all what I have gone through in past two decades, I want to do something for parents and children with special needs. I want to create awareness and do something which will make sure they receive help in time and are not misled by anyone.  

How has your life changed now?

Life has changed a lot. In a way, for good, I must say. Being a mother to a special child teaches us a lot. It shows the real facet of people and society. It tests our limits and potential. We discover our hidden strengths of which we are ignorant. I started blogging and writing book reviews a few years back. I have started a home business of baking healthy and sugar-free cakes, cookies, and stuff in 2015. I have published my first e-book Yours Truly in 2019. Recently in lockdown, I rekindled my love for art and creativity and picked up paints and brushes after nearly two decades. I have started doing mandala art therapy for myself. Work is going on for my second book which is based on my life experiences as a mother. I regained my self-confidence which was shattered by gas lighting by some family members and blaming me for being responsible for Prerna’s conditions. Yes, slowly trying to live life to the fullest taking a day as it comes. I used to keep asking “Why me?” but now I don’t. Instead, I offer my gratitude that God has made me what I am today due to Prerna. I have learnt many lessons. Only regret (sometimes) is if I had that knowledge and capacity initially, things would have been bit different perhaps. Maybe! But as of now taking it as it comes with a smile.   

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Don’t brush off your kids: Understand what they are trying to communicate


This is a guest post by Aryssa, a family coach who works with parents and kids.


It may not feel like a big deal to you but it’s a big deal for me!

Child: I fell over in school today and hurt myself.
Parent: Oh really, these things happen, it’s not a big deal. Now what would you like for dinner?

This may seem like a harmless everyday conversation and you know what, you’re right!

However, for your child it looks a little different.

Here your child is trying to communicate that he or she fell over and they want you to show compassion.

However, your casual response may indicate that their emotions are not valid and that you have more pressing things on your mind like – What to cook for dinner.

In your mind, you probably don’t want to make a “big deal” out of it and move forward.

However, your child may want you to ask more questions so he or she can tell you what they are thinking and feeling.

It could be that your child tripped and everyone started laughing which made them feel embarrassed OR It could be that he or she was pushed which is what caused them to fall.

Who said parenting was easy?

Our role as parents is to be conscious of all of the things our children are saying as well as all the things which they aren’t.

When we move on to talk about something else, they interpret that as “mum doesn’t understand me”, “dad isn’t listening to what I’m saying” or worse “my parents don’t care”! When of course you do!

Imagine you are talking to a friend about something that really upset you and they switch the conversation to talk about something else, how would it make you feel? The same is true of a child; only they are likely to be a lot more sensitive and take actions literally because of their level of understanding.

So, I invite you to be conscious when your child is talking to you and try not to brush them off. The more you connect with them, the closer your bond will be!

About the writer:
Aryssa is a family coach who works with parents and children to support them with their daily struggles. Her work is recognised for being fun and thought provoking. She creates a shift in mindset so individuals feel connected and inspired to live with positivity in this ever changing world. You can visit her website www.ryssdom.com and connect with her n Instagram here.

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The No-No stage of almost-three-year-old toddlers

NO. NO. NO. NO. Is this the current favourite word of your toddler? Especially, when it comes to meals! My toddler is 2 years and 9 months old (at the time of this post) and she uses this two-letter power word the most from her decent vocabulary.

Ah, how happy I was when I got that booster seat to encourage baby led weaning when she started sitting and eating well. She started eating by herself for a while and if you have a one-and-half-year-old kid, you know the joy. Ah, the dreams that finally she and I will enjoy the mealtime joy of eating together instead of one big person spoon feeding a little one first! Welcome to reality… It’s not happening anymore yet.

So if all those beautiful Instagram posts by moms whose kids are eating by themselves are making you feel the pressure, relax. People tend to post more about achievements than otherwise. If your kid is being a picky or fussy eater, what is the probability that you will post that all over social media? See what I mean? Some kids, especially in the 2-3 years age group, are exploring the power of the word NO and using it effectively… Lol. So yes, all little toddlers who start self-feeding, might take a little/big break at this stage. Don’t stress it out too much. If you notice, they will mostly eat fries, chips, chocolates and cakes using their hands without any effort from us. So they are capable of eating without help. They are just not keen on having the daily routine healthy food 😜

I am not going to bore you with how you should keep trying different types of foods, different plating and presentation, creativity, new place to eat, gaps between meals, etc. If you have read until this point of this post, it means you might have already tried it all, right? So all I want to say is relax. It’s stressful, I know, I have anxiety issues and I have been really bothered by the recent fussiness. But I realised today that this will not be the case forever. She will eventually eat without me hovering around her head, reminding her constantly to eat / chew or feeding her those unending morsels. It is, in all probability, a phase… a boring, irritating but this-too-shall-pass kind of phase.

So, well, join me in relaxing a bit. It’s okay of we are still feeding our toddlers with our hands while other kids of same age are all eating independently. Let’s not compare for our own peace of mind. Few years from now, we will simply remember how our toddlers took a little while to reach this milestone. There’s no point losing sleep over this by worrying too much. This is the stage when kids explore power struggle (and maybe we too!). So keep trying at intervals and this too shall pass. Enjoy feeding your kids when necessary for now, as we all know that they grow up so fast! Savour the moment instead of giving into peer pressure and stress.

And if you managed to pass this stage, let us know after how long and how exactly did it happen! Let’s be honest, we all need some useful, tried and tested tips!

Happy parenting!

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